Christmas is coming

It's almost Christmas. It's snuck up but now I just want it to be over with. It still hurts when I think about the fact that I wasn't even invited to decorate the tree with my family. I had been looking forward to that. I went to target and dollar tree today and I guess I'm done shopping now even though there is much much more I wish I could buy for my family and friends.

I've had to sign a lot of papers lately. Between housing authority and the mental health clinic I'm being transferred to. I'm waiting to see if the person named Cliff who runs the groups I'm supposed to start gonig to is going to return my call. They want me to start going to two groups on wednesday mornings from 10-11 and 11-12. I have never gotten much of anything out of stuff that early in the day.

I still haven't made a medical doctor appointment. I keep finding ways to put if off still. It probably wont be until the new year when I am able to face a doctor.

I finally have started wrapping presents. My neighbor on the other side of the brick wall stopped by with a bag of homemade cookies covered in cinnamon sugar and a little box of three kids of lip gloss in a box that has a mirror built in.

I am on my period but went shopping two days in a row anyways. Dollar Tree, Target, Kohls, and Walmart. I found the chocolate oranges we couldn't find anywhere last year. I also bought a few boxes of chocolate covered cherries for neighbors and anyone else who gives me a gift.

trying

It's been a long time since I posted a blog hasn't it? I haven't really been able to put things into words lately. My brain does not work.

I'm tired all the time. I ache all over all the time. I'm itchy all the time. I'm just plain miserable. I'm always thirsty. I'm often nausious. I want someone to just sit and hold me. I have no one who would ever do that though and it hurts to be touched anyways.



I feel very unwelcomed. My mom especially makes me feel unwanted. She never wants me around. Doesn't want me to contaminate their home. She don't want me to sit on their new couch or go anywhere near her bed. It hurt my feelings a lot when she didn't even let me know they were decorating the Christmas tree. I found out when I showed up over there to pick up Dillon to take him to practice driving and everything was done. That was always one of my favorite things growing up. We'd get a bunch of special snacks and as a family we would put together and decorate the Christmas tree. It feels like they are trying to make me not part of the family at all. They call me only when I have to take the kids to school.


I know I need to make a doctors appointment. I'm not sure why I haven't exactly. I always have an excuse to put it off. I'm dreading going to the doctors again because it always seems to futile and I end up feeling even more hopeless.

not functioning very well

Been not really functioning lately. Feel like shit all the time. Have been leaning on my friends way too much and am so scared they'll get sick of me and go away forever. That is how life works after all.

I hurt all over all the time. And itch. I feel like a big acheing bruise. And so tired. Never have any energy at all. I just want to die.

My mom and grandma are constantly nagging me about coloring my hair but they just do not understand how bad the migraines are the damn dye causes and according to them the natural ones everyone else said to try aren't good enough. Nothing is good enough.

Danielle and JohnJohn have gone waaaaaaay above and beyond anything I deserve and been there for me a LOT. I need to pull away from them before its too late.


Almost got to go to Disneyland on friday but grandma decided we couldn't. It's frustrating and depressing.

Everything is frustrating, depressing and hopeless.

a very shitty day it took me weeks to post about

I'm acheing. I'm itchy. I'm thirsty. I'm tired. My head hurts.


I went with mom and the twins trick or treating around Glendora.

Afterwards the plan was to go to karaoke with John and Danielle but no one

was having karaoke so we played Wii Fit instead. We laughed a lot. Both

with the twins and with John and Danielle.


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Taking the kids to school so often is really taking a toll on me. I'm

constantly exhausted. And constantly frustrated. Aggravated.

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On thursday (november 5)I had the day from hell. It started with a phone

call saying my intake at the mental health clinic had to be changed. I

have been trying to get into the clinic since about August or September. I

was supposed to finally have my intake this coming monday but now it's been

changed again to december.

Then I went to my appointment at the social security office and was told

theyr'e gonna be taking 10% of my check a month until I make up for the

"overpayment" since I won that sweepstakes a year and a half ago. Theyr'e

taking away the amount I won. I can't ever get ahead. As it is I can't

get all my bills paid each month without help and end up with like $4 in

the bank at the end of the month. I told her there's no way I can survive

with $85 less a month. She said when I get the letter to call and work out

a different payment plan.

After that mom sent me to get a hair cut and then to get the lice shampoo

kit. The stupid hair cut lady asked lots of questions about what I do for

work or school and why I'm not in school or have a job. We spent a long

time making sure there was NO lice in my hair. My back and legs killed me

from leaning over the sink trying to get all of the shampoo stuff rinsed

out.


Housing Authority called while we were working through my hair and wanted

me tocome out to their main office the next morning. I can't get to Sante

Fe Springs on my own. Mom got aggravated that she would have to take me

out there.

My mom sent me on errands to the store and to pick up the H.Salt fish she

ordered. I ate too much and ended up feeling sick. I then had to sit

around forever waiting for Dillon to be ready to leave. He was gong to his

friend's house to celebrate a birthday. It was like nine pm when I finally

got home, exhausted. I then had to take apart the couch and the bed and

vacuum and spray everything and do laundry.

When I got home my computer refused to come on and took a couple hours to

get to work. Then my washer flooded the kitchen again.

week leading to halloween

So slow. Never seem to really do anything. Time just passes by.


Took Hannah and Daniel to school. Took Kylee to school. Let Dillon drive

himself to school. Grandma loaned me her gas card again. I went to the

library and got a Stephen King book called "Gerald's Game" and the Death

Cab for Cutie cd "Plans". Then went to the bank and was there for a very

long time and was charged $8 to be mailed my statement in 5-8 business days

to send to Housing Authority. It's ridiculous to charge that much for a

stupid statement and I only had about $4 in my checking so they had to get

it from my savings which now only has about $20 left in it. I hate being

so damn broke.


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Took the kids to school again. It was crazy hair day for the twins school.

Kylee talks about nothing but going into the army now.


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Was a long week and I took the kids to school tuesday, wednesday, and

thursday and it takes a big toll on me doing that multiple days in a row.

On friday evening Danielle invited me over. Me and her and John went and

got food at taco bell/pizzahut. I got a cheese pizza meal. Then we went

back to her house and watched tv while we ate then spent a few minutes on

the computer before going and playing Wii Play.


It's Halloween. I'll probably go trick or treating with the twins and then

John and Danielle invited me to go to karaoke with them later in the

evening.

slacking

Been staring at this blank window not knowing what to type. I went grocery shopping after having h salt fish with my family. Kylee and Dillon were not home. It was mom, grandma and the twins. i feel like crap. I over drew my account and barely had enough in savings to transfer to get me out of the red.

I've sat here all night and all morning just staring, and crying and struggling.


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I wrote the above a few days ago. I haven't been functioning too well lately. On Friday me and Dillon went to Disneyland. Mom was supposed to meet us there with the twins but did not. The twins had benchmark testing so she couldn't take them out of school early. I haven't talked to her since. Dillon seemed to be avoiding me at Disneyland. Trying to spend as much time away from me as possible. I slept all day Saturday.

Feeling so hopeless. So lonely. So anxious. Just wanting to go to sleep and never wake up. Been very urgy but trying so hard not to cut.


So itchy. Tired. Itchy. Anxious. Depressed. Achey. Hopeless. Stupid. Lonely. Unworthy of love.

tired but should do stuff

I took the thw twins to school yesterday then took Kylee then let Dillon drive to school. Grandma had me give Kylee $20 because she had no cash and Kylee needed food money and I only had twenties. Then grandma gave me her debit card to get $20 out of her account to replace what I gave Kylee for my groceries money.

When I got home I went and got the mail. I came back to find my neighbor outside. He looked at my car and said that I need power steering fluid. While I was at grandma's yesterday she checked my oil and added 2 bottles of oil to it. My neighbor had pointed out a knocking sound in my engine to me a few days ago and said that he'd check my oil for me and put some in if it needed it if I got some oil. It was the day it was raining when he'd said that and I hadn't talked to him since. I'd been kind of hibernating lately.

I talked to mom on the phone during her lunch hour. She said she'd talked to mando and that he's going to let her have the kids friday so we can go to Disneyland and he'll have them two days next week. I think he's trying to get them for Halloween even though it is her year. He had them last year.

Today I should go grocery shopping and make a doctors appointment. It's been far too long since I tried doing the doctors stuff. The headaches and back pain need help. I should probably go back to the asthma doctor and the stomach doctor too. I hate doing all that stuff.


Pretty much everyone in #bus is having a hard time. It's so hard to believe that meff is really gone. His wife has to go to the funeral home today. I wish I could help her. I'm doing the only thing any of us can really do though. I'm around to talk to.


I wish I could go to sleep and this time when I wake up I really wake up. I wake up and realize that it was just a bad dream. I want to wake up and realize that my meffypoo is feeling better from the flu he had last week. That he's not really dead. That shyla still has the center of her world. I don't want to make the phone calls to doctors and start all that hassle again. I don't want to go grocery shopping. I dont want to think about anything anymore. I just want to curl up and die. Tired of the pain. Tired of the sadness. Tired of the loneliness. Tired of the hopelessness. Tired of wondering how I'll get my family Christmas presents. Tired of being tired. Just so tired.

goodbye meffypoo. how can you be dead??

Went eleven days before I screwed up and didn't write. Just plain lazyness. Didn't do anything. No writing, no cleaning. Nothing really. I slept most of the day away both Saturday and Sunday.

On saturday evening JohnJohn called and invited me to karaoke. I didn't get up until they called despite several efforts on and off for hours to talk myself out of bed. I went to karaoke with them and he paid for my Shirley Temple. I met them at Danielle's house and then Danielle drove and we picked up Emma who lives pretty close to the karaoke place they've been going to.




meff passed away 10/19/2009 at 2:52 a.m. CST - He's at peace now.

I just found out my good friend who I called meffypoo died. Rodney was such a good guy. On friday he had the flu. When I was about to go to bed sunday morning his wife shyla instant messaged me and told me he was in the hospital and had been put on a ventilator. He had pneumonia and his kidney's were failing. She asked me to pray for him and I did. And now he's gone. It was just a few days ago I was joking with him. He was so funny and so smart. Was always willing to listen and was one of those people who would talk about anything. I loved talking to him. He was so selfless. Hated to ask for anything but counted me as a friend and opened up to me and I opened up to him. He helped me with computer problems many many times. Never asked anything in return except friendship. He called me jennellybelly. I called him meffypoo. I just can't believe he's gone. Just gone. He had the damn flu. Everyone gets the flu. Shyla said yesterday it was the swine flu. even so it still was the flu one day and then two days later he's DEAD. how can he be dead? why are so many people dieing? Sergio's dad, danielle's grandma, meff...all so close together. who's next? i wish i was the one to die. i'm sick of watching as people drop like flies.





I feel torn between not wanting to be alone and wanting to pull away from EVERYBODY so that I have no one else to lose. If I have no one in my life to care about then theres no one who can hurt me (whether they mean to or not).

day 11

Went to Night of Music from Film with mom and the twins. Grandma had made spaghetti so I had some of that before before we went. I had to take mom over to get the car from the mechanic beforehand.

It was hot today. like 97F. I want the weather to cool back down. We had one day of rain and then back up the temperatures went.

I haven't done anything around my apartment today again really. I put a new trash bag in the trashcan and threw some empty bottles in the bag they go in. Feel so tired all the time. I'm sick of being tired.

Day 10 and I have light

Ten days in a row.

I broke the lamp this morning. My landlord came over and fixed the celing light and the lamp too. I hope I got all the broken pieces of the bulb off the floor. I found one little tiny piece of glass with my bare foot and it still hurts.

I finished the book Breaking Dawn. I love the Twilight Series and want more. Now. There's a draft of a fifth book on the author's website. It's basically the first novel from Edward's point of view instead of Bella's from the discription. I haven't read the actual pdf yet though. I plan to.

I have not slept and it is after two pm. I guess I better take a nap. Tomorrow I have to go over to mom's house in the afternoon and get her to help me with the paperwork and then me and her and the twins are going to see "A Night of Music From Film" at the college. Marcie decided not to go and I haven't talked to John or Danielle since I told them about it so I doubt they plan on going.



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I napped from like three until almost eight pm. I finally got around to fixing a bowl of soup around midnight and didn't shower until like three pm. I finished the book Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood.

Didn't work on the list at all really. And it's after four am now and I'm not in the mood to work on it.